Kik mistress 2016

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Chelsea G. Summers August 15, share. I was traveling to Sweden to write and to get laid, not necessarily in that order. I downloaded an app for the T-Bana, the Stockholm Metro, because it was free. They all used Kik. A messaging app with about million worldwide users, Kik offers a baseline level of secrecy, a terrible reputation with law enforcement, and a huge popularity with teens. Launched in by Canadian tech company Interactive, Kik is unusual for its anonymity.

It is precisely the kind of technology that gives parents the howling fantods — or would, if they knew about it. Not for nothing, Kik flies under the parental radar. In a world where we leave fingerprints on everything we touch, Kik is one of those rare, unseen spaces can we fancy ourselves the most adult. Depending on whom you ask, Kik is either the best thing since AOL Messenger and MySpace or the worst thing since the invention of the hooptie van. In a day span in early , the New York Times counted four criminal investigations linked to Kik: three involved attempted rape, statutory rape, or sending sexually explicit messages to or year-old girls, and one involved sending child pornography.

Just this past month, Kik sat at the center of child pornography arrests in Alaska, the arrest of a teacher for sexual assault of a minor, a Florida mom caught for having sex with a year-old girl, and the arrest of a man charged with kidnapping and rape of a year-old girl. It came to me late in life, but instant messaging has always crackled on my skin with the erotic frisson of the illicit. I slipped my first slick AOL disk into my iMac at the age of 31; stumbling into chat rooms felt luscious and naughty. I loved the night-swimming nakedness of talking to strangers in the digital dark.

Thus, Kik was easy to love. He and I were chatting on Kik, but I was also chatting with four or six other Swedish guys. Men are so fickle, you see. Suffice to say that neither of these women is looking for their unsuitable suitors to slide into their DMs, and while Pamela ends happily, neither book makes getting letters from men look joyous. It came to me late in life, but stumbling into chat rooms felt luscious and naughty. Reading fucks with your head. Like a projection on a silver screen, you remake meaning, words flicker and fade, reborn in your own image.

You thrill to the language, respond with rapid heartbeats and quickened breaths and damp panties. Yet I chose my legal name for my Kik screen name — and my legal name is not my public self, my writing name. Anonymity, to me, is trash; pseudonymity is treasure. Back then, I acted under a stage name, and I wrote under a pen name. More than mere pretense, the adoption of other names afforded me the chance to craft my own character. My year-old parents made an identity for me in choosing my legal name a first and a middle name that shifted vowels and a truncated the names of my two grandmothers , but I could change it.

A pocket god, I could remake myself in my own idealized image. One layer atop another, another glued atop that, more shellacked over those, and with time an anonymous name becomes a pseudonymous person. The difference between an anonymous person and a pseudonymous name is that the former exists apart from time and space, while the latter shows the decou of time and history. This transition from anonymity to pseudonym takes the labored cohesion of identity through mindful curation of self. This transition from no one to someone requires time and a visible, even performative, presence.

I know this is how anonymity becomes a self-fashioned identity because I lived it. I started writing anonymously in under the name chelsea girl; in I got published and had to refab that embarrassing handle into a legit name, and Chelsea G. Summers was born. I do my job under my legal name, but my pen name is my work. And work, more than blood, is life. I made some plans, I broke others. I flirted and was flirted with.

I texted the code to the electronic door of my AirBnB to a handful of guys. In short, I lavished in the potentially dangerous behavior that Kik makes possible. Women grow up, often in a hurry, but our sex lives are never free from nannying concern. Using Kik in Sweden made me oddly aware of being both the grownup and the child, both seducer and potential victim, both private adult self and public female symbol.

By my nothing legal name or my ooh-la-la public pseudonym? The latter makes a better story. My passport attests to my legal name — the one I use on Facebook, thus Tinder, thus Kik — but my essential self lives in Chelsea, the sex writer. Summers has 6, Twitter followers and gets hate mail from MRAs. Summers has naked photos on the internet. Renown follows Chelsea G. Summers, but my legal name is a cypher, and thus — strangely — erotic. Kik alleviated the worry that I, the real I , could be traced in hard black, indelible lines in the real world.

I like the cloak of invisible ones and zeroes hiding my fingerprints in the digital dark. My Kik profile is still live. Every so often, I get a strange text from a presumable human whose avi is usually ripped from manga. He knows my birth name, and he knows my created, writing self, because she and I are symbiotic swimmers, remora and shark. A former academic, Chelsea G. Summers writes almost exclusively about sex. Real Life. There is always a new "incident" to report of how a tech company's product led to some instance of harm — algorithmic bias or intensified surveillance reproducing social injustice, gig economy platforms prompting abusive labor practices, disinformation leading to violence, and on and on.

Reform seems insufficient, so what lessons can tech criticism draw from abolition movements? Kik Starter The best instant messaging is ephemeral and anonymous, giving texters the buzz of the erotic. Image: "Playing Yourself" by Blake Kathryn. Search Searching Real Life archives….

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